some other things.....(this topic may not be easy for some, just warning you)

Well I'm back!(from eating). This note is going to be about a topic that isn’t easy to talk about, but that I feel must be said. It’s about sex. That’s right I just said the word that no one ever wants to talk about. The word that is taboo in most churches because so many people are afraid to bring the subject up. But what makes us so afraid to talk about it? Why has it become so uncomfortable among Christians to speak about it? Simply because the world has corrupted the original intent of sex. No one can walk around in this world and not see something nude, semi-nude, or promiscuous on TV, the Internet, movies, billboards, and even in peoples lifestyles, including the way they dress(especially girls, though guys don't seem to mind). The world has saturated us from age 10 to now that its ok to wear that low-cut top, its ok to show that belly, its ok to have sex before marriage, its ok to masturbate, its ok to learn sexual techniques from those Men's Health or Women's health magazines, its ok to explore sexual pleasure. After all that's how we were made, right? NO! If that isn't how we were made, then is sex a bad thing? Certainly not! God designed to be a beautiful thing, he designed to be exhilarating, and he commanded us to do it "Go forth and multiply". Sex is the only way to multiply. He could have chose to make us asexual reproducers, where we just cut off a finger and poof, there is a person! He didn't do that though, so there must be a reason for him designing sex. Sex is a part of God's gift to us out of love. However, he put very specific parameters around it. First of all, it was designed for marriage and marriage alone. Why? Because sex not only bonds two bodies together, but it bonds two souls. Sex is not just a physical thing or technique, it is a beautiful way for a man and his wife to bond together as one flesh, and it involves emotional, spiritual, and even psychological aspects within it. Sex is truly a beautiful inside of marriage. Sex is also a symbol of the covenant of marriage. Because it bonds both body and soul, it reinforces and solidifies the already made covenant to stick together for life, no matter what. It signifies the commitment they have already made on their wedding day to themselves and God. However, when done outside of that context, it is completely defying and destroying the covenant that God has established. It also can have many consequences like an unwanted pregnancy, STDs, or a broken relationship. Most importantly though, it can leave scars on you that no other sin can. Sex outside of marriage is also selfish. You are taking God's covenant and you are throwing it in his face just because you don't have the self-control to watch what you do with your body. You want that pleasure and you want it now. Why wait until marriage when it can easily be obtained now? Because you do not have the right. You do not have the right to take away a person's virginity or your own until you are completely committed. Marriage is the ultimate commitment, the ultimate expression to show that you love your spouse that much. Sex is a demonstration of that commitment. If you are not married, then you have no right to have sex with someone whom you have not shown that commitment to through marriage. You are also sinning against your own body as well as the other person’s body when you do that. Only that girl's husband has the right to have sex with her, if she is not married then no one does and vice versa with a man and his wife. If a man doesn't have a wife, he shouldn't be having sex. Masturbation is even more selfish in my eyes. Not only are you defying the covenant of marriage, but you are basically denying your future wife or husband the pleasure of having sex with you. You’re taking all the pleasure for yourself, or basically what is called self-gratification. They should be the first and last people that you share your sexual pleasure with. Also, masturbation requires you to lust. It requires you to have thoughts about or visual images of things that you have no right to be thinking. You are basically raping whoever it is in your mind, since you are doing things to them without their consent. Lust is strictly forbidden by God, as no good ever comes from it. For any girls reading this, I feel like there are some things that you need to know about guys. First of all, guys were made to be visual. Guys also have a natural sex drive. However, the filth that guys are fed constantly in this world today fuels that sex drive to an unhealthy level and it makes it so much easier for a guy to fall into sexual sin. Also, the way girls dress does not help. Girls do not realize how easy it is for guys to sin through our eyes before we even have time to think about it. All it takes is one low cut top, one pair of short shorts, one tight shirt. I know you don't want a guy looking at your breasts or your butt, yet you wear these things that show off or advertise your looks. Yes they may be "in style” but are they right? Do you really think you need those kinds of clothes to attract a guy? A true godly guy will love you for who you are, not what you wear. Am I trying to use what you wear as an excuse for guys’ behavior? Absolutely not! It is very important to never just accept that sinning is a part of you and that it is pointless to fight it. God's grace is sufficient but we are called to get back up after we fall. We cannot view ourselves as a helpless victim! We must rely on Him and he will pick us back up. I owe too much to my God and my future wife to quit trying to become pure in everything that I do. To strive for holiness, righteousness, godliness, brotherly love, goodness, and perseverance. That is my goal, now and forever. To be ready for my wife when I meet her some day. To be God's light in a dark world. To love without holding back, with God's love. Agape love. To be more humble. Will it be easy? Nope. But I don't expect it to be easy because it was never meant to be easy. But I have all confidence that God will take care of me because he promises that he will. I will trust him now and forever and I hope that you will do the same. Life is so much more fulfilling when you know God personally instead of just knowing about him.:) Time to continue, and I think this next one will be the last one......... Oh and most of this material is from a book called Every Young Man's Battle. The book is extremely good and I would recommend it for any guy as well as any girl who truly wants to know what temptations guys face daily. It also gives ways that the authors used to fight the temptations. It is very blunt and not easy to read, but it is definitely worth it.